Growing up as a kid I had a great life. My parents worked hard and gave my brother and I had a very good childhood. I learned at a young age to work hard for what you want. My biggest goal back then was to graduate high school. I really didn’t like to study so I couldn’t wait to get out of school. I had no intentions of going on to college as school was never my favorite thing. So I was able to accomplish that goal and got my high school diploma in 1989, I was pretty excited about that. I wondered what is next if I am not going off to college.
I soon found out what was next, I started to clean hotel rooms the week after I graduated. Well as we all know that is not anyone’s ideal job. I did that for three months and then moved to a factory job. The factory job was way better money and I was still living with my parents at the time. That November I started to date a guy that was my brother’s very good friend and my parents loved him. I had no idea he would later be my boyfriend then two years after we dated we would get engaged. We had planned our wedding for May 1993. The whole year of 1992 was very busy planning our wedding. I was still living at home and paying off furniture and putting into the house that and my future husband and I were going to live in after the wedding. I was so glad I had a job I could do that with. Christmas of 1992 was great just as every Christmas was. Little did I know my life was about change and not in a good way.
On January 4th 1993 my brother’s birthday, My mom and brother had to take my dad to the hospital. They had to run tests all day to try to figure out why my dad was in such pain. That night he had a six hour surgery to put a stent in to his aorta. He had an aneurysm and a difficult surgery since he was a heavy guy. Our family was very close so when dad was in surgery. My grandparents, his brothers and their wives, all my cousins, My mom brother and I all waited in the waiting room. He finally got out of surgery and got put in the ICU for recovery. We were so scared the glue to our family my dad was sick. All he talked about is how he was going to eat healthy and take care of himself when he got home. On January 13th they told us my dad was doing better and tomorrow he is getting out of ICU and going into his own room. Well that never came, that night my dad went into cardiac arrest and a blood clot came from his leg to his lung. They tried to save him but did not succeed so he passed away. I will never forget that day for the rest of my life. What were we going to do without my dad. You see when they did the surgery on my dad they found blood clots in his legs. However they could not put him on blood thinners because it was such a major surgery back then.
After that my world was turned upside down. What was I going to do without my dad? I was getting married in a few months and no longer had a dad to walk me down the aisle. It was a very hard time for all of us. At that time my grandpa my dad’s dad was using a cane to walk with. He had five sons, well four now. So he worked very hard for the next few months. Then on my wedding day my grandpa walked me down the aisle without his cane. He did Great! It was both a happy and sad day as we all missed my dad.
Even though my dad was gone, I now had a new man in my life who my dad loved. In 1994 I quit my factory job and went on to work with my mom at her business. She ran the town cafe and I was a waitress there. We decided to not have children until after we were married for five years. I figured if we can deal with each other for five years then we can have children. Besides at that time in my life I was still young myself and not ready for kids yet. Well unfortunately things didn’t work out as planned. My husband was a farmer and in February 1997 he had a lot going on. We were getting ready to buy a new vehicle, He wanted to sell corn and become more of a voice with his dad and brother’s farming business. He was getting tired of doing what they wanted all the time. The weekend after we were going to buy the vehicle. We had a trip planned to go to Las Vegas the weekend after Valentine’s day. It was non-refundable so we had to use it or we would loose it. My husband was really struggling a lot at this time, he became very ill. He had completely changed he had forgotten everything he knew. He forgot how to turn things on and off. He talked really strange. He was not himself, in a sense he kind of turned into a two year old. I loved him a lot and could not figure out what was going on with him. A few months before all this started to happen I wasn’t feeling the connection with him that I once had. Even though I loved him very much, I just didn’t love him the way I did when we got married. His strange behavior started on a Sunday and during the week he was being put on different medications. His family and my mom would come sit with him so I could sleep during the day. We were afraid he would try to drive off some where and we would never find him. It was nice that they helped out. It was a crazy week, It was so sad and stressful for me. On Valentine’s Day of 1997 was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. I was 26 and I had to admit my husband into a mental facility for a 72 hour evaluation. So they could figure out what was wrong with him. Needless to say he was in there for about a week so we didn’t get to use our Vegas trip. His doctor would not tell us what was wrong with him. We never found out until we went to a marriage counselor and she found out the diagnoses for us. It was schizophrenia and he would have to be on medication the rest of his life. Before we found out any of that we tried so many different things to try to make our marriage work and nothing seemed to help. I just didn’t have that connection with him that I used to. I had lots of talks with my mom of what to do. I finally came to the conclusion that divorce was the best option at the time. So we divorced even though we stayed friends. I have moved on and never looked back.
For some years after that I worked at my mom’s cafe and other various jobs. I usually had a full and part time job at the same time. I also had some roommates, some good and some not so good. Mostly bad roommates that would take advantage and try to steal things from me. I finally got tired roommates! Then in 1999 I moved home for a while to save on bills and to try to get things figured out. My Mother had got remarried so when I moved home I moved in with her and my step dad.
In 2001 I filed bankruptcy just so I could get an apartment and live without having to depend on roommates. Then in 2001-2007 I was still working extra hours just to have some money to pay bills. Also in later 2001 I was able to move out of my moms and get my own place. Not very many of those jobs offered insurance. I would struggle just to have money for groceries. Sometimes I thought my cupboards looked like Old Mother Hubbard, I barely had anything in them. I had all my bills paid but barely enough money for anything extra I would need.
Then in 2008-2014 I worked in a factory job making filters for cars, farm equipment, boats and other various vehicles in a small town of Kearney Nebraska USA. I thought I was so lucky to get the perfect job to help me with bills. While working there with in eight months by April of 2009 I developed Asthma. As badly as I wanted to get another job because of health reasons. I was unable to quit because with the overtime and the good money. I was able to pay more bills and had money to pay for my asthma medication. Another benefit that this job offered was good insurance.
You see I want you to know life wasn’t handed to me on a silver platter. I have counted my last pennies to buy groceries. I have denied myself fun things to do because I couldn’t afford them. When most of my friends had cell phones, I still had a landline because I couldn’t afford a cell phone. I didn’t like to ask my mom and step dad for money. My step dad also passed away in 2007, then my mother passed away in 2012 when I was 41. Going through all the deaths in life isn’t easy but I believe it has made me a stronger person.
I worked really hard to get my credit score up after I filed bankruptcy, I am so proud of how I have succeeded to do so. After my mother passed away I got a little money to help me get by. So now I live with my boyfriend and was lucky enough to quit my job that I got asthma from.
So as you can see I am very pleased with the way things have worked out for me. However sometimes when you do what you believe is the best for you. Others seem to think it wasn’t the best for me. Sometimes when you don’t have a college degree other people think that a quick decision you make may not be the best decision. So for me this was my time to let everyone know I am in charge of my own destiny. So I decided if I didn’t make a choice to take a chance my life would never change. So for those of you who were unhappy with me quitting my factory job. This is the happiest I have ever been, I have no regrets! I currently have my own online business and make more money then I did at my unhealthy job. For those of you who didn’t have faith in me I am grateful for you. Your behavior has made me push harder. Your behavior has made me want it more to prove I got what it takes even more. Your behavior has made me enjoy learning again. Your behavior has helped me to find the real me. I now learn new things in my business daily and I love it. I get to work at home every day pajama’s or not. I can sleep in if I want, take time off and don’t have to answer to a boss. I can take breaks and eat lunch anytime I choose. I also get quality time with the dog. I am ready for all the challenges coming my way. I know there will be good and bad ones like with any business, but I am ready!
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